Saying ‘no’ is one of the hardest things for many people to do. Many times our family, friends, and anyone else for that matter will ask us to do something, coerce us, and even threaten us. If we do not comply, we face a penalty. Our hand is forced to give in, against our wishes, and agree to doing the task. Many people have a hard time saying ‘no,’ and give in to other people’s demands, wants, and needs.

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Oftentimes the people who are unable to say ‘no’ have an issue with their own self worth. They feel inferior to others and have other people define them. As a result, they have an intense fear of disappointing others, so they will always give into their wants, needs, and demands, without valuing their own happiness and freedom first. If this describes you or someone you know, then realize that saying ‘no’ is not easy, but there is a way to stand up for yourself.

The ability to say ‘no’ shows just how confident you are with yourself and your ideas and decisions. You value yourself and don’t give into other’s demands. By standing up for yourself, it shows that you truly are at peace with who you are and love yourself. But if you are unable to say ‘no,’ there are ways of finally getting the courage to stand up for yourself.

Let’s first explore why it’s so hard for us to say ‘no.’ For one, we don’t like to disappoint others. This is because if others view us in a negative way, we’ll feel bad. This is human nature, but it goes much deeper than this. Oftentimes the inability to say ‘no’ stems from childhood where if we didn’t do something right, either by disobeying our parents, or making a mistake and not doing something by their standards, we will be punished. This carries over into adulthood where we have to please others to seek validation from them. But the truth is that validation does not come from external sources. Validation always comes from within, and that’s the place to begin.

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Realize that you are valid just as you are. It doesn’t matter what your parents, friends, coworkers, or your neighbors think of you. Be yourself and be you no matter what. Not everyone will accept you. Some will love you, and some will hate you, that’s a fact of life. Instead of focusing on those who make you feel bad, who don’t accept you, and trying to make them see you and your experiences as valid, let them go and focus on the people who are there for you and help you grow. By doing this, you’ll feel more confident. Which leads us to the next point.

Build your self-confidence. There are multiple ways of boosting your confidence, but it all comes from within. Value yourself and see yourself as a loving, kind person. Your flaws are what make you unique. And the mistakes you make help you learn and grow. There is nothing negative about your existence except what you perceive as negative. Everything you do and think is meaningful, as long as you believe it to be. So, don’t let others ruin your confidence by dismissing what makes you happy. Instead, focus on what makes you happy and build upon that to be the best version of yourself.

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And lastly, be your own boss. The work environment is often frustrating and you may not feel valued at your workplace. If that describes your situation, then find a line of work that you value and can be your own boss. However, being your own boss goes beyond just work. Be the boss of your life. Don’t let others push you around and take advantage of you. When you allow others to take advantage of you, that means you don’t value yourself, and thus won’t seek out the best opportunities that are of your best interest that help your growth. Instead, stick by what you believe in, no matter how much you are disowned, made fun of, coerced, or threatened. It may feel bad to lose those closest to you, but you’ll feel so much better sticking by what you believe.

Saying ‘no’ is difficult, but it is a reflection of your self-confidence and worth. Stand your ground no matter how hard it is and you’ll resonate with your true self and find the happiness within you.

Let me know how this works for you. Have a great day!

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I had a hard time saying ‘no’ my entire life. I always gave into what other’s requested of me, even though I didn’t like it. There were things I disobeyed, such as going to college and doing what my parents wanted me to do. I went towards my own dreams and desires, working hard at accomplishing my own goals, and being self taught with various skills. It was a huge success since I used those skills to accomplish what you’re seeing and reading here – website, video, audio, images, etc. Almost every skill I have is self-taught. Even though I don’t consider myself a genius in any skill, as there is still much to learn, I strive to be the best I can be and learn as much as I can.

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