Energy vampires are those that drain your energy when you’re around them. They drain your energy to use for themselves as you then begin to feel weak and tired. If you’re around someone who is an energy vampire, it’s quite easy to tell. Think of a time you’ve had good energy, only to have it drain away from you when being around someone. It could be a family member, a friend, your boss, or anyone else. The more time you’re around them, the more drained you feel, as if they are taking your energy for themselves. You’ll feel physically and mentally exhausted after time with them, yet they will have plenty of energy and continue to gain it the longer they are around you. This person is what’s known as an energy vampire who drains your energy, either knowingly or unknowingly.
The reasons someone is an energy vampire isn’t necessarily clear, as it can differ for each person. It could be someone who is extroverted and gains energy from being around others, or it could be an introvert who is insecure with themselves and uses others to boost their self-worth and esteem. They may be people who unload a bunch of their negativity onto you, having you carry the burden of their negativity and stress, or someone who uses you to feel better about themselves, such as a bully does. Whatever the case is, energy vampires will drain your energy and you may be reluctant to spend time with them.
What are some ways of dealing with energy vampires? The number one thing is to communicate and bring it to their awareness. Many times these people are completely unaware that they are using you to boost themselves up. Subconsciously it’s there, but consciously they may be oblivious. Have a discussion with them about how you feel drained around them and that you think it’s due to them not being secure with themselves. Offer advice and help them work through these problems so that they are not dependent on you, or anyone else, to boost themselves up.
Next is to set boundaries. If you’re spending too much time with this individual, dial it back a bit and figure out what works and doesn’t work. Limiting your time with them, and doing activities that will take their focus away from draining your energy will help improve the relationship for you both.
If you cannot work anything out, it may be best to cut them out of your life. Any friend who is causing you so much stress, and rational discussions cannot get through to them, is someone who is not respecting your boundaries, and thus causing you unneeded stress and anxiety. So, you may need to break off the relationship for your own sanity.
And lastly, protect yourself. Don’t let others take advantage of you, and learn to put your foot down when needed. Build up your own confidence and self-worth and you will be more protected from energy vampires since they won’t target you. Many times they sense someone who isn’t as protected with their energy and they feed off it, so learn to be conscious of what makes you vulnerable and build up your confidence to be secure with yourself.
Energy vampires can be frustrating being around since they drain your energy and it seems like you’re not able to do anything about it. However, building up your own self-worth, setting boundaries, and bringing these issues to their awareness will help manage a friend who is draining your energy. Don’t let others take advantage of you. Be confident and you will attract the right people who will respect you instead of leeching off your energy.
Let me know how this works for you. Have a great day!
When you are highly vulnerable, people can pray on it. I’ve noticed this personally when I’ve been around people who drain me. It still happens since there are family members who do this. Regardless, I’ve learned some techniques to help remedy this to a degree. I’ve even questioned if I do this to others, and in a way, to some people, I feel I do since I see them lose energy while I gain a bunch. I think we should all be conscious and set boundaries.