You cannot change the past. No matter how much you try, you cannot change what happened to you in the past, nor can you change history. While the past is unchangeable, there are key things you can learn from it to better yourself and your life.

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The past and history cannot be changed because you cannot rewrite what happened to you, and what happened in the world. There may be negative experiences in your life that you wish never happened, mistakes you’ve made that you regret and you wish you could change, and things that have happened that you live with each day because you know it’s connected to your past.

Post-traumatic stress disorder is a good example of this since what happened to you when you were younger may stay with you for years as you wish it never happened. Or what about when you embarrass yourself and make mistakes that impact your life in a negative way? You may wish to go back and change what happened.

The fact is, you cannot change these things. However, you can change your perception of them in the present so they no longer negatively impact you. Instead of living in regret, why not learn from your mistakes and improve your life? Instead of having intense fear and anxiety each and every day due to your traumatic childhood, why not see your past as a reason why you are a strong individual who has gone through more than most others have?

For many, seeing the past in such a hopeful light is near impossible. This has to do with the fact that they are not yet comfortable with their past and what happened to them, nor are they at peace with it. Some may even be in denial and have blocked out the things that have happened. If this sounds like you, and you are feeling hopeless about your past, then realize right now that you have control over how it impacts you. Only you can change your perception of the past you had. And only you can change the way your life will change in the future. By staying in the same mindset, you will make no progress. So you must change your mindset and see what was as a way to grow and become the best version of yourself.

You have to go through your past and relive it if you wish to come to terms with it. While talking with a therapist and getting out what you’re feeling that has been sitting inside of you for years may seem daunting, it can help immensely. However, one of the best ways of making peace with your past is to do a form of meditation where you visualize your past self and you comfort the child and past you that was traumatized. If you regret things, go back mentally and tell yourself that you forgive yourself for making the mistakes, and that it helped you learn and grow. Always take something of value from it, since each event that happened to you, both good and bad, are here to help you become your best version. Realize what life is trying to tell you and live in the present moment instead of dwelling on the past.

There are many reasons to reflect back on your life and see what mistakes you’ve made and where you can improve. Life is all about improving yourself and finding the best version of yourself. You are a strong person for what you went through, and all the things you regret are here to help you learn and grow. See them that way and you’ll be even stronger and wiser now than you were before.

Let me know how this works for you. Have a great day!

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I had a rough childhood. I didn’t feel wanted and felt like an outcast. My past was so bad that I detached from it, not knowing what happened to me as I blocked it out. The mind never forgets, and the truth was buried deep within me, causing me so much turmoil. I decided to see a therapist and got it all out, reliving my past again so I could heal it. The journey was rough, but I came to terms with what happened to me in the past and became stronger as a result.

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