Being able to truly express yourself, not just physically but also mentally and spiritually, can be quite challenging, or so we think. Many people have a hard time expressing who they truly are, but why is that? It is actually quite simple.
Think about the reason you are unable to be your true self and express how you are. Give it a minute as you think of the reasons, even write them down. As you come up with reasons, do any of them involve other people? Maybe you feel your family will not approve of how you are. Maybe your friends will no longer want to be in your life. And maybe random people will judge you. Are any of these on your list? And are all of the reasons why you cannot express yourself due to other people? The answer is most always ‘yes.’ But why?
Society actually plays a big role in how we perceive ourselves. We think it’s wrong to do certain activities, dress a certain way, or even say certain things because society may say it’s wrong. When we actually try to be ourselves and break the rules of society, we may be faced with criticism from opposition, be called various names, and even threatened. However, we are just being how we truly are, so why do we let others get to us?
We let others influence our lives because it’s hard for us to actually let go of what others say. We care what other people think of us because we want to be loved and accepted. We don’t want to be seen as an outcast or discriminated against, nor do we want to be labeled as the one who is discriminatory or offensive just because we have an opposing opinion. The end result always seems to be the same, repressing how we truly are because of other people, and solely other people. We let others determine what we do in our life and how we perceive ourselves.
The answer of getting out of this mindset and not letting others affect us is to learn to build love within ourselves so that no one can break it. We are not other people, nor do we need their opinion to influence our decisions and actions. Expressing yourself seems like a simple feat, so be you regardless of what anyone else says. Never give in and never cave for someone else, always be your true self. Don’t be gullible or easily persuaded, but stand by what you believe in at all costs. There are many psychological techniques that are often used to mentally break you down and make you give in, but don’t give them the satisfaction. Instead, be you no matter what.
But how do you find your style? It can be a physical style such as clothing, but also the way you do certain tasks, think, and more. The best way is to learn what makes you happy. What truly makes you happy and content is when you feel a drive within you, something pulling you towards the end goal, the finish line, as you make progress and focus on you. It’s all about you when you’re expressing yourself. Other people can try to bring you down, but simply take their words as constructive criticism as you improve beyond what you initially thought and be the absolute best version of yourself. You can do this and I believe in you. All you have to do is believe in yourself.
Let me know how this works for you. Have a great day!
I use to care so much about what others thought of me to the point that I didn’t want to offend anyone. The moment I did, I would cower in shame as they would point out my every flaw and I would be so upset as I repress my true self. To these people, my true self was ugly and needed to be hidden. I had to put on a mask of someone I’m not to please them, and I willingly did it. However, I learned that in order for me to be happy, I had to take that mask off and be myself, express my true thoughts, and make my voice heard. These people didn’t like that, and tried harder than ever to bring me down. Yet, I stood strong, and thought these people will always discriminate against me, calling me all sorts of names and blaming me for their problems, I will let my true self shine, and it’s beautiful.