Anger is an emotion that each and every one of us experiences in our life. However, some of us may not be able to manage it appropriately and get mad at others very easily based on something they did or said, even if it was trivial. Some of us even get into a rage, while others may seem calm and collected, even during the most stressful of circumstances. Why are we so different when it comes to our anger?
Finding what makes you angry will give you insight into how to control it. Our anger often stems from past issues, and feeling guilty based on something we did. We try to hide what we truly feel, the sadness and shame we have, and instead feel angry as it is a higher vibrational state than sadness and depression. If people make fun of us, exposing what we don’t like about ourselves, making us feel vulnerable, we can get angry as a coping mechanism. Once we identify what makes us angry, we can begin to manage our anger so we don’t get defensive whenever someone irritates us or makes us feel vulnerable.
Mindfulness meditation is the most effective tool at managing our anger since it allows us to be present in the moment and let go of these attachments that can cause us to be angry. Being angry is an emotion we dwell on, which is why mindfulness allows us to experience it and let it go.
Practicing mindfulness is tricky for most people that have many distractions throughout the day. We are always distracted with technology, social media, and other external sources that we have lost our ability to concentrate and focus on one thing at a time. So address that first and remove those external sources of distractions from your life, especially at the time of meditation. Then you can proceed with learning how to be present in the moment.
Many people these days do not know how to manage time without technology. If the power goes out, and there is no Internet access, what do you do? Do you feel stressed, bored, unsure of what to do because you have nothing to distract you from the thoughts going on in your mind? If so, then that is the perfect reason to learn mindfulness.
Take a moment away from distractions, and let the thoughts flow through your mind without attachment. Be present of sounds and noises around you, letting them come and go. Whatever is going on in your mind can flow like a stream of water if you give it time. This is the true key to letting go of anger.
Give this time and yourself a chance to adapt to being mindful. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and will take time to be implemented in your life. I can guarantee you that the effort you put into changing yourself and being the best you can be is worth it in the end.
Let me know how this works for you. Have a great day!
As someone who was unable to manage their anger in the past, I understand the struggle of being mindful. Sometimes our emotions get the best of us, and I let anger rule my life. When I was a child, I would throw and break things, causing chaos since I didn’t know how to deal with my anger properly.
When I was a teenager, I started meditating and it made a huge difference in my life. It started with me being frustrated that I couldn’t clear my mind and nothing would happen during meditation. I was quite impatient. But then learned the ability to let that go and just focus on the present moment. This took a few years, but in the end it was worth it since I can now effectively manage my emotions. I still get angry, and it can be quite intense at times, but fades quickly when I practice my techniques.